The Real Reason You're Stuck on the Parenthood Decision (It's Not What You Think)

If you've been going back and forth on whether to become a parent or live childfree, you've probably spent a lot of time in "what if" mode.

What if I can't afford it? 

What if I'm not cut out for it? 

What if I make the wrong choice and regret it? 

What if circumstances change?

Here's what I want you to understand: that kind of thinking isn't getting you closer to an answer. It's keeping your anxiety activated. And it will keep doing that indefinitely — because those questions don't have answers you can think your way into. 

They're about matters that are, by definition, out of your control.

Watch as I share more:

How to Decide Whether to Have a Baby When Everything Feels Out of Your Control 

What I've found in over 30 years of doing this work is that the fear isn't really about the things it attaches to. It's about fear itself. 

The "what ifs" are just the places anxiety lands — they're not the source of it.

So what do we do instead? We put those fears to the sidelines — not to ignore them, but to stop letting them run the show — and we turn our attention inward. We look at what inside of you actually needs attention. And when we do that, something shifts. You develop a new relationship to those fears. They stop feeling like walls and start feeling like information.

This  information is exactly what my Parenthood Clarity Process is designed to surface. It’s about finding the small pieces of information you didn't know were there — but that have been shaping your indecision all along.

If you're ready to stop asking "what if" and make a decision once and for all, I'd love to guide you there.

You can start here:

• Access these Free Resources
• Read the book I co-wrote with Denise L. Carlini, Motherhood-Is It For Me?
• Explore one of my courses — Motherhood Clarity™ Course, Fatherhood Clarity™ Course, or the Parenthood Clarity™ Private Course.
• Move through my popular Weekend Workshop, Is Parenthood for You? at your own pace — it’s now available as a 5-Part Digital Workshop (more than 6.5  hours of teaching!)
• Join our mailing list to hear about future programs and the latest updates.

Join My LIVE Weekend Workshop

On Friday, August 14 through Sunday, August 16, 2026,  I’ll share my proven process in my LIVE online Weekend Workshop Is Parenthood for You? — and you're invited.

Over the course of one weekend, I’ll guide you live through the method I’ve refined over three decades. You'll:

• Uncover the unconscious beliefs and fears keeping you stuck
• Separate what your family and culture want from what you want
• Learn to sit with not knowing, without it derailing you
• Discover the many definitions of parenthood, including your own
• Understand why it's never too late to heal your early wounds

Find out more and register now (or hop on the waitlist to receive updates about the next round!)