It’s easy to feel defensive and afraid when your partner expresses that he or she wants something that feels far away from what you want, but it is possible to come together as a couple. Today, in Seeking Clarity, we hear from a husband who had always known that he wanted to be a father.
Sometimes the clarity that one achieves is different than what they expected it would be. At the conclusion of the four-month Motherhood Clarity Course, women don’t always have the clarity of their desire enough to make a decision about whether to become mothers or live childfree lives.
If you and your partner are disagreeing about whether you want to be parents or live a childfree life, then understanding the depth of each other’s desire with care and respect is very important. It isn’t about agreeing or disagreeing with each other’s desire. It’s about understanding the what’s and whys of each other’s desire.
It was wonderful to be contacted by Chanel Dubofsky of HelloFlo.com, who wanted to discuss the values and advantages of the Motherhood Clarity Course.
When a woman contacts me and tells me she is pregnant and needs to make the decision within a few weeks to terminate or carry this child to term, she doesn’t have the luxury of a 14-week program. But that doesn't mean she can't take steps toward discovering her desire.
The unanswered question of do I or don’t I become a mother may be the most life-defining decision a woman can make. The women asking it are an invisible population of courageously conscientious, brilliant, lovely women.
I am happy today to premiere a new series, Seeking Clarity: Interviews with Women Who Sought and Found Their Answer to the Motherhood Question.
Certainty can look good in the face of not having it. But hold your horses—you might not want what they have, or shall we say, what you perceive they have.
After deciding not to have children, Maryanne Pope has continued to blog about the motherhood choices and struggles facing all women. I am honored by the review she provided for Motherhood - Is It For Me?
Today, we'll look at the concluding four lines of the Mantra, lines designed to help you feel confident that you will find the answers within you.
Parts of blogger Maryanne Pope's story mirrors my own -- she became a widow before having the children that she thought she'd have with her husband. I thought I would share my personal story with her readers.
I was thrilled recently by the review of Motherhood - Is It For Me? Your Step-by-Step Guide to Fertility in the spring edition of the British Infertility Counselling Association's journal.
Our publisher Christine Kloser, CEO of Transformation Books, gives a special shout-out to our book, Motherhood - Is it For Me? Your Step-by-Step Guide to Clarity.
Let this be the year that you decide what you want to do so that by next Mother’s Day you’ll be embracing a childfree life or moving in the direction of motherhood.
I was thrilled last week to be interviewed for childfree advocate Brittany's article "How to Stop Fearing Regret and Find Clarity" on her blog, The Rinky-Dink Life.
As we focus on the third part of the Mantra, we'll discuss how the next two lines are meant to help you soften internally and experience more ease.
Today, we'll look at the next two lines of The Mantra: "I don't know why I don't know," and "It's not my fault that I don't know." Keep reading to discover how these two lines can bring you comfort.
We invite you to read, breathe, and live The Mantra throughout the program. Its purpose is to bring immediate relief from any pressure you feel about your uncertainty.
When your anxiety is running high because you can’t decide if or when you’re going to have children, sometimes the best thing to do is to distract yourself with something pleasant. I want to offer you a couple of relaxation exercises using my Pinterest page.
Motherhood is one of the most complex roles a person can have. To think there is one scenario to motherhood and how one might feel about it is ludicrous. There isn’t one way to decide to become a mother. There isn’t one way to be a mother.
You can’t make a resolution unless you know what you want and why. Just making a declaration without knowing what you want and why sets you up for what I call “the hope and pray” method. It’s ineffective.
This kind of instant, negative judgment is exactly what so many women who are questioning whether they want to be moms or live a childfree life deal with day in and day out.
If one of your New Year's resolutions is to decide the motherhood question, you can get started on it now, before December ends.
I’m delighted that Motherhood - Is It For Me? Your Step-by-Step Guide to Clarity is finally available for every woman. I’d like to share with you how it came to fruition, as well as aspects of my personal journey that I rarely talk about—how I struggled with ADHD and how my deep desire to become a mother was followed by my ultimate decision to live a childfree life.
Women who can’t answer the question, “Do you want to be a mom?” or “When are you going to have children?” loathe, abhor, detest and - to put it simply - hate when this question is asked. Most of these women feel bad that they don’t know or can’t decide.
How do you build momentum when you have felt stuck for so long? Though "stuck" sounds like a static state, it is actually an active state.
Dear Men, I’ve worked with so many of you over the years, but I still feel sad when you say, “It doesn’t matter to me.” Or “I can go either way.” Or “Whatever my partner wants will work for me.”
It’s never easy to see your friend or someone you care about experiencing emotional pain or suffering because of an internal struggle. Often your first thought is to help them be rid of their pain. As a good friend, you want to make it all go away, right?
I recently had the pleasure of musing over Edward Ruscha’s 1982 Indecision, which hangs in the Menil Collection Museum in Houston, Texas. The color drew me in right away and then I was mesmerized by the words on the canvas.
Motherhood is a role that is constantly being redefined. As economies change, as sexism and classism get addressed, as women’s oppression is recognized and lifted, women become empowered and can decide what is best for them.