I was thrilled last week to be interviewed for childfree advocate Brittany's article "How to Stop Fearing Regret and Find Clarity" on her blog, The Rinky-Dink Life.
As we focus on the third part of the Mantra, we'll discuss how the next two lines are meant to help you soften internally and experience more ease.
Today, we'll look at the next two lines of The Mantra: "I don't know why I don't know," and "It's not my fault that I don't know." Keep reading to discover how these two lines can bring you comfort.
We invite you to read, breathe, and live The Mantra throughout the program. Its purpose is to bring immediate relief from any pressure you feel about your uncertainty.
When your anxiety is running high because you can’t decide if or when you’re going to have children, sometimes the best thing to do is to distract yourself with something pleasant. I want to offer you a couple of relaxation exercises using my Pinterest page.
Motherhood is one of the most complex roles a person can have. To think there is one scenario to motherhood and how one might feel about it is ludicrous. There isn’t one way to decide to become a mother. There isn’t one way to be a mother.
You can’t make a resolution unless you know what you want and why. Just making a declaration without knowing what you want and why sets you up for what I call “the hope and pray” method. It’s ineffective.
This kind of instant, negative judgment is exactly what so many women who are questioning whether they want to be moms or live a childfree life deal with day in and day out.
If one of your New Year's resolutions is to decide the motherhood question, you can get started on it now, before December ends.
I’m delighted that Motherhood - Is It For Me? Your Step-by-Step Guide to Clarity is finally available for every woman. I’d like to share with you how it came to fruition, as well as aspects of my personal journey that I rarely talk about—how I struggled with ADHD and how my deep desire to become a mother was followed by my ultimate decision to live a childfree life.
Women who can’t answer the question, “Do you want to be a mom?” or “When are you going to have children?” loathe, abhor, detest and - to put it simply - hate when this question is asked. Most of these women feel bad that they don’t know or can’t decide.
How do you build momentum when you have felt stuck for so long? Though "stuck" sounds like a static state, it is actually an active state.
Dear Men, I’ve worked with so many of you over the years, but I still feel sad when you say, “It doesn’t matter to me.” Or “I can go either way.” Or “Whatever my partner wants will work for me.”
It’s never easy to see your friend or someone you care about experiencing emotional pain or suffering because of an internal struggle. Often your first thought is to help them be rid of their pain. As a good friend, you want to make it all go away, right?
I recently had the pleasure of musing over Edward Ruscha’s 1982 Indecision, which hangs in the Menil Collection Museum in Houston, Texas. The color drew me in right away and then I was mesmerized by the words on the canvas.
Motherhood is a role that is constantly being redefined. As economies change, as sexism and classism get addressed, as women’s oppression is recognized and lifted, women become empowered and can decide what is best for them.
When you’re locked in the middle of an indecision loop trying to decide if you want to be a mom or live a childfree life, my guess is you experience frustration. You’re stuck! Something just doesn’t feel right.
Have you decided if you’re going to be a parent?
If not, do you know why you haven’t made the decision?
- Maybe it’s because you’re young and you know you will deal with it later and you believe you have plenty of time to think about it?
If you were asked, “Do you want to be a parent,” what would you answer be? Yes? No? What if you didn’t know the answer? You’re not alone in this dilemma.
Many women feel they should know what they want to do about motherhood. It can seem like everyone else just knows! You’d be surprised how many women feel inadequate because they’re undecided about becoming a mom.
Are you in your mid-thirties and childfree because you're: Undecided about whether you want to be a mom?